当孩子成功做好一件事时，需要父母鼓励；当孩子遇到困难时，更需要父母鼓励。在养育骏骏的过程中，有时觉得在鼓励孩子时，来来去去用的都是那么几句话，显得毫无变化。为此在网上找了两份资料，在此与大家分享：
第一份资料：Encouraging Things to Say to Kids
“A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.” ~Rudolph Dreikurs
Here is a list of encouraging phrases to say to kids. Some of these examples fit many kinds of scenarios, and others are responses I’ve said to my kids about something specific that happened. I try to say these kinds of things daily, and, once I understood what makes a response encouraging (as opposed to praising, belittling, fixing, etc.), it’s actually not very difficult to fit them into conversation.
Every day my kids have opportunities to feel proud and to want me to encourage them even further. But rather than say, “Good job, that makes me so happy,” I try to find a way to focus it on their efforts. In short, encouraging statements keep the task/ action/ problem/ accomplishment about the child, not about the parent.
Every positive discipline tool is designed to encourage chidden, help them feel capable, and connect us closer to each other. All of these phrases acknowledge and appreciate something positive about a child and are encouraging words to hear:
- I love you.
- I’m sure you can find a way to solve this problem.
- Boy, you worked so hard on that! It really shows.
- I have faith in you to figure it out.
- I know you don’t like doing this, and I thank you for doing it anyway. It really helps.
- The amount of detail you added to this drawing makes it seem so life-like.
- You must feel so proud of yourself right now!
- Your eyes easily spotted the quickest way through that maze.
- I noticed that you’ve been working hard at cutting your own food.
- You did it!
- Thank you for putting all of our towels in the laundry. It helps us get ready much faster.
- Trust yourself.
- It sounds like your body is trying to tell you something.
- I noticed how long you stuck with that.
- You have the right to feel angry.
- I can tell that some special mom/ dad time would help you right now.
- How do you feel about what you accomplished?
- I appreciate your cooperation.
- Thanks for helping.
- What do you think?
- What do you need to do to accomplished your goal?
- I’m listening.
- That was hard for you; thank you!
- I can see you are really angry right now, and that’s OK.
- What would you do about it?
- I just want to sit and be close to you for a few minutes.
- It’s OK to be sad.
- I appreciate you setting the table so neatly.
- Wow!
- I know you are upset. I would be too.
- You can try again tomorrow.
- What is your understanding of what needs to happen?
- Your piggy bank is getting really full; it must have taken you a long time to save all that.
- You decide.
- I have faith that we can find a respectful solution.
- Look at what you’ve accomplished!
- You are capable.
- Thank you for getting dressed so quickly.
- I noticed you gave your toy to that boy when he was sad. I bet it helped him feel better.
- What is your plan for getting this done?
- I’m sorry.
- I love you.
- You lead the way.
第二份资料：50 Encouraging Things to Say to Your Kids
Words can really change attitudes, self-esteem, relationships, and lives. Here are 50 things that you can say to your kids. Try at least one of them today. Also, it's good to be specific when using praise. Instead of "beautiful picture" try saying, "I really like the colors you used." Instead of "nice job" try, "You did a great job cleaning your room. It looks so nice."
- I love you.
- You mean so much to me.
- I'm proud of you!
- Great job.
- Nice try.
- I'll pray for you.
- You make me happy.
- Have a good day.
- You're beautiful.
- You can do it.
- You're the best!
- You're good at this.
- I like the way you did that.
- You're so smart.
- That was thoughtful of you.
- I appreciate your help.
- Very clever.
- You have a lot of talent.
- Fantastic!
- Way to go.
- Your efforts are paying off.
- I can tell how hard you've been working.
- Outstanding!
- You're a hard worker.
- You're an excellent helper.
- Well done.
- I knew you could do it.
- Marvelous!
- You figured it out.
- What an imagination.
- I am blessed to have you in my life.
- You made my day.
- You're a good friend.
- You made a good decision.
- You're incredible.
- Good for you.
- Now you have the hang of it.
- You're really improving.
- That's the best ever.
- Much better.
- I can tell you've been practicing.
- You should be proud of yourself.
- What an accomplishment!
- You've really learned a lot.
- Congratulations!
- You figured that out fast.
- You made it look easy.
- It makes me happy when you do your best.
- That's quite an improvement.
- Good thinking!
