骏爸关于英语语调的看法
本帖最后由 seaview2011 于 2012-9-10 22:15 编辑我的语音语调不标准，会不会教坏了孩子？
对于跟孩子说英语，常见的担忧是：我的语音语调不标准，会不会教坏了孩子？这是完全不必要的担忧。
首先，你不是唯一影响孩子语音语调的人，孩子的语音还受到学校英语老师的影响呢。说实在的，现在学校英语老师（特别是小学英语老师）的语音语调又能有多准呢？你是否不打算让孩子跟学校的老师学英语了？另外，孩子的语音语调还受众多英语音频视频资源影响。现在的孩子比我们那一代人幸运多了，有那么丰富的英语音频视频资源可供选择，这对孩子形成标准的语音语调有巨大的正面影响。会发音的电子词典，还可以给孩子查找每一个单词的标准发音。更可喜的是，这些资源并不昂贵。
其次，孩子不是机器，而是善于学习和自行纠错的人。人的大脑中有天生的甄别系统，会通过“输入、比较、去除”的方式进行自我完善，学习语言尤其如此。父母一口乡音、老师的普通话也不甚标准的孩子，长大后却说一口标准普通话，这种情况我们都见得多了，就说明孩子能够通过多种途径自行纠正和调整自己的语音语调。（PS: 我曾经看过央视的一个关于两三岁孩子成长的记录片，里面特别提到，孩子有一种模仿强者的本能，他们能辨识自己周围谁是最“强”，最“优秀”，最讨大人喜欢的小朋友，或者他们的最吸引人的行为，举止，语言...并加以模仿。）
再次，标准如播音员的语音语调真的很重要吗？值得为了这个而牺牲孩子整个的语言发展吗？孩子在0－6岁的语言敏感期，学的不仅是语音语调，更是积累词汇、掌握语法、形成语感的关键时期，并进而把这种语言与自己的知识、情感和思维交织，达到表述自如、交流无碍的境地。因此，我们不能捡了芝麻丢了西瓜，为了标准的语音语调而荒废了语言整体发展。
再说了，语言的本质是为了交流，只要不影响交流，腔调的差异无所谓。我们全国各地的普通话也是南腔北调，并不影响互相交流。世界各个以英语为母语的国家，口音也是千差万别，同样不影响交流。
因此，只要你的英语语音语调不影响你跟外国人的交流，大可以放心地教自己的孩子。
这些天赫赫小同学进入了下床敏感期，哈哈，出生后把大床的床垫换成了棕的硬床垫所以床的高度降了不少，前几天赫赫在床上练习匍匐前进的时候，偶尔机会爬到床沿上，把腿伸了下去，我顺势帮了他一把，他的脚够到地了，小伙子很兴奋，扶着床沿，看我看我再看我，很满足的样子，从此一发不可收拾，每天都要练习下床N次：）Careful! do you wanna get off the bed? Put you legs down as slowly as you can. Well done,Hehe, you are standing on the ground now!放一个玩具在远点的地方，Do you see the blue ring? Go to get it, hold the sheet tight, move towards the ring! yeah ,move to the ring step by step, great ,you got it! Good boy! 这几天重点练习了下 1.clap your hands 2.pound the balls together 3.give daddy a bite 4.give a little flap 5.wave hello and good bye。效果不错，继续努力ing...........
enjoyable reading time everyday
本帖最后由 seaview2011 于 2012-9-16 20:59 编辑很享受的阅读时间
从赫赫最近看书的表现来，我感觉孩子在一岁前对绘本的故事情节是没有任何要求的，一岁前的孩子只对图画里的单个目标感兴趣，对自己熟悉的画面会反复指，父母在这个画面上的延伸解释时，孩子会自己统计出重点词的频率，比如cow ,this is cow,cows live on the farm, milk comes from cows, cows are black and white,do you know the sound of cow? A cow says mow~mow~,孩子应该从这些句子里统计出出现频率最高的，就是Cow 并跟画面联系。将来随着这种基础词汇的不断积累，他们才会懂得那些解释，从而对故事情节等产生需求。 低幼的小朋友图书，应该从那些简单的单一的画面开始慢慢过渡到比较复杂的画面。 有没有进行one parent one language 进行双语养育的家长，希望一起交流！ 哇，这个爸爸太厉害了，我们宝宝差不多大，我是5个多月的时候，给宝宝读绘本，但还没有过你这样的成效。
你每天大概多少时间陪宝宝？每天跟他英语的时间大概多少呀？这么早就看peppa pig 对小宝宝的视力是不是不利呀？
Mario妈妈_付佳于2012-9-18 22:21补充以下内容：
请教这位爸爸目前都在给宝宝读什么绘本或者书？ 哎呀~~我来过~~做个mark~~~免得这位爸爸自己记录的太寂寞哈~~{:soso_e113:} 本帖最后由 seaview2011 于 2012-9-19 20:29 编辑
Mario妈妈_付佳 发表于 2012-9-18 22:10 static/image/common/back.gif
哇，这个爸爸太厉害了，我们宝宝差不多大，我是5个多月的时候，给宝宝读绘本，但还没有过你这样的成效。
你 ...
我属于自由职业，加之比较宅，没事就在家，陪孩子的时间比较多，跟孩子只用英文交流，他妈妈用汉语，我的教育热情比较大，说的比较多，到现在英语输入比汉语强势。绘本买了很多，感觉赫赫这个年龄的孩子（一岁之前）对故事情节没要求，比较爱看的是the usborne出版的very first englishi dictionary ，这个词典推荐给小孩用，图画简单，下面有简单的例句，可以做延伸解释，最近陆续给看了Eric Carle的the very hungry caterpillar, polar bear polar bear what do you hear还有 todd parr的 reading makes you feel good, its okay to be different.......主要为了让他感受英语的韵律，其实感觉上这个年龄段的孩子只能统计出我们大人说话里的 key words ，其他修饰词仅仅限于磨耳朵。
关于低幼孩子看电视的问题我也很纠结，赫赫看过的视频有peppa pig 第一季 1～12，maisy 1~6, 清华预感启蒙全部，baby signing time 1～4. 现在每次看基本控制在15分钟以内，每天次数不定。我看了些国外双语养育的书籍指出，2岁以内孩子看视频对增加自身的词汇基本没有用处，主要原因是孩子没有思考时间，即使大人陪看也是如此。视频如此更何况音频。我家的电视是等离子电视，相对液晶比较保护眼睛。 在电视上的USB播放视频，可以暂停，播放，方便在比较好的地方暂停进行讲解。这算是权宜之策，符合语言学习最关键的要求：与人互动
seaview2011 发表于 2012-9-19 17:17 static/image/common/back.gif
我属于自由职业，加之比较宅，没事就在家，陪孩子的时间比较多，跟孩子只用英文交流，他妈妈用汉语， ...
things parents can do to help children learn language 1. how much you say matters
2.listening is important too
3.live interaction
4.what you say matters
5.watch how you say too
6.scafolding language
twelve steps that promote language development
step 1. treat infants and young children as conversational partners
respond to children's earliest vocalizations as if they are meaningful turns(you supply the meaning). Pay attention to the child's attepmts. Your tone needs to be interested and supportive.
step 2. use positive reinforcement
use positive statements rather the prohibitions:"i like how you're sitting quitely" instead of "sit down and don't
talk".
step 3. continue the topics introduced by the child
the best place to start a conversation is from the child's interest-which you infer from where a child is looking. what she is showing to you ,or what she is tring to say.
step 4. never laugh at the child's attempts to communicate.
you want to laugh with the child. but never at the child, and never because of how she says sth, even if you think it's cute.
step 5. dont correct; instead, recast children's utterance.
direct your attention to what your child is saying, not how.
step 6. expand your child's utteerances.
the best way to expand the child's vocabulary and syntax is by expanding or recasting what the child says. For example, when the child says,"ball,"you respond,"oh, do you say the ball?what a pretty blue ball, can you throwme the ball?"
step 7. give the child a chance to talk
Banance your own talking with listening: a patient attitute encourages the child to take her turn.
step 8. ask open-ended qustions.
Ask,"what was the horse doing in the parade?" or "what didyou like best about the parade?" rather than "do you like the parade ?"
step 9. provide scalffolding for your child's stories
Co-construct stories with you child, and then tell them together(repeatedly).
step10.use books and media interactively
If you watch tv, watch it together. as with books, use it as an oppotunity for complex talk back and forth.
step11. "teach through play"
children learn best through play. (keep it light!) when you do want to be a little more teacherly, do it in verysmall doses.
step12: use movement with speech.
signing and finger-play are especially helpful. Dances like the hockey-pockey are fun and instuctive. Incorporate repetition and refrains.
本帖最后由 seaview2011 于 2012-10-4 22:26 编辑
这些天赫赫同学“看”书的情绪高涨，主要看usborne 的the very first english dictionary 还有 scholastic的first dictionary,今天翻出了前些天看的触感纸板书：this is not my lion..
清华语感启蒙里听过和看过很多遍wiggle your fingers,手指的形状有些像lion's paws,看到This is not my lion, its paws are too rough! 我举起双手，形状像wigglling fingers跟他讲the lion holds its rough paws like this,oh~oh~ ，赫赫也举起双手同时wiggle his fingers哈哈，You can touch the lion's paws 赫赫用手触摸lion's paws(哪个部分是塑料做的，很rough），他用手可以抓出声音，很着迷。看到This is not my lion, its ears are too soft. "where are your ears? can you show me ?" I asked. 赫赫拉拉自己的耳朵，看着我，继续看到This is not my lion, its teeth are too shiny. 赫赫扭头看并用手指指我露出的牙齿：）他对小老鼠很感兴趣，每一页我都会问他，where is the little mouse? 如果他发现就表扬，good， that is the litlte mouse ,he is on the lion's back, on the lion's head, on the lion's paw,under the lion's tail,in front of the lion......之后，晚上睡觉前玩的时候，I asked, Hehe, can you show me the lion's paws? then赫赫held up his hands and wiggled his fingers to show me the lion's paws!...................Good night, my cute boy!Daddy and mommy love you !
美国幼儿园写给家长的信，你做到了几点
本帖最后由 seaview2011 于 2012-10-12 22:23 编辑1.别溺爱我。我很清楚地知道，不应该得到每一样我所要求的东西。我只是在试探你。
2.别害怕对我保持公正的态度。它反倒让我有安全感。
3.别让我养成坏习惯。在年幼的此刻，我得依靠你来分辨它。
4.别让我觉得我比实际的我还要渺小。它只会让我愚蠢地装出超出我实际年龄的傻模样。
5.如果能够，请别在人前纠正我的错误。你私下的提醒，会让我更加注意自己的行为。
6.别让我觉得我犯的错误是一种罪。它会降低我的人生价值观。
7.当我说“我恨你”的时候别太沮丧。我恨的绝不是你，而是那降生在我身上的压力。
8.别过度保护我，怕我无法接受一些“后果”。有的时候，我需要经由痛苦的方式来学习
9.别太在意我的小病痛。有时候，我只是想得到你的注意。
10.别唠叨不休，否则有时候我会装聋作哑。
11.别在仓促或无意中做下允诺。请记住，当你不能信守诺言时，我会是多么的难过。
12.别忘了我还不能把事情解释得很清楚，虽然有时候我看起来是有能力的。这也是为什么我不能事事正确无误的缘故。
13.别太指望我的诚实，我很容易因为害怕而撒谎。
14.请别在管教原则上前后不连贯、不持续。它会使我疑惑，而对你失去了信任。
15.当我问问题的时候，别敷衍我或拒绝我。否则你会发现我终将停止对你发问，而向它处寻求答案。
16.别告诉我说，我的害怕很傻、很可笑。如果你试着去了解，便会发现它对我是多么的真实
17.别暗示或让我感觉到你是完美、无懈可击的。当我发现你并非如此的时候，对我将是多么大的打击。
18.别认为向我道歉是没有尊严的事。一个诚实的道歉，会让我对你更接近，对你感觉更温暖。
19在我飞速的成长时请和我保持一致的步伐，或许这对你来说有点困难，但是我们一起试一试好吗？
20我喜欢尝试，请你也接纳我的这一爱好。
21 有了你的爱我才能茁壮成长，我需要他们，但是我不会挂在嘴边，好吗？
Memos From Your Child
1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for ... I'm only testing you.
2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it .. it makes me feel more secure.
3. Don’t let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in early stages.
4. Don’t let me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly “big”.
5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk to me in private.
6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.
7. Don't be too upset if I say I hate you. It isn't that I hate you, but only that I need your attention.
8. Don't protect me from consequence. I need to learn the hard way.
9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailment. Sometimes they get me the attention I want.
10. Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf.
11. Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.
12. Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I'm not always accurate.
13. Don't tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.
14. Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose my faith in you.
15. Don't put me off when I ask you questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.
16. Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to try to understand.
17. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.
18. Don't ever think it beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm to you.
19. Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me but please try.
20. Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get along without it, so please put up with it.
21. Don't forget that I can't thrive withoutlots of love. But I don't need to tell you all the time, do I?
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