Memos From Your Child (转载)

1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for ... I'm only testing you. 

2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it .. it makes me feel more secure. 

3. Don’t let me form bad habits. I have to rely on you to detect them in early stages.

4. Don’t let me feel smaller than I am. It only makes me behave stupidly “big”.

5. Don't correct me in front of people if you can help it. I'll take much more notice if you talk to me in private. 

6. Don't make me feel that my mistakes are sins. It upsets my sense of values.

7. Don't be too upset if I say I hate you. It isn't that I hate you, but only that I need your attention.

8. Don't protect me from consequence. I need to learn the hard way.

9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailment. Sometimes they get me the attention I want. 

10. Don't nag. If you do, I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf. 

11. Don't make rash promises. Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.

12. Don't forget that I cannot explain myself as well as I should like. This is why I'm not always accurate. 

13. Don't tax my honesty too much. I am easily frightened into telling lies.

14. Don't be inconsistent. That completely confuses me and makes me lose my faith in you. 

15. Don't put me off when I ask you questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.

16. Don't tell me my fears are silly. They are terribly real and you can do much to try to understand. 

17. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible. It gives me too great a shock when I discover that you are neither.

18. Don't ever think it beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm to you. 

19. Don't forget how quickly I am growing up. It must be very difficult for you to keep pace with me but please try.

20. Don't forget I love experimenting. I couldn't get along without it, so please put up with it. 

21. Don't forget that I can't thrive without  lots of love. But I don't need to tell you all the time, do I? 

1.别溺爱我。我很清楚地知道，不应该得到每一样我所要求的东西。我只是在试探你。

2.别害怕对我保持公正的态度。它反倒让我有安全感。

3.别让我养成坏习惯。在年幼的此刻，我得依靠你来分辨它。

4.别让我觉得我比实际的我还要渺小。它只会让我愚蠢地装出超出我实际年龄的傻模样。

5.如果能够，请别在人前纠正我的错误。你私下的提醒，会让我更加注意自己的行为。

6.别让我觉得我犯的错误是一种罪。它会降低我的人生价值观。

7.当我说“我恨你”的时候别太沮丧。我恨的绝不是你，而是那降生在我身上的压力。

8.别过度保护我，怕我无法接受一些“后果”。有的时候，我需要经由痛苦的方式来学习

9.别太在意我的小病痛。有时候，我只是想得到你的注意。

10.别唠叨不休，否则有时候我会装聋作哑。

11.别在仓促或无意中做下允诺。请记住，当你不能信守诺言时，我会是多么的难过。

12.别忘了我还不能把事情解释得很清楚，虽然有时候我看起来是有能力的。这也是为什么我不能事事正确无误的缘故。

13.别太指望我的诚实，我很容易因为害怕而撒谎。

14.请别在管教原则上前后不连贯、不持续。它会使我疑惑，而对你失去了信任。

15.当我问问题的时候，别敷衍我或拒绝我。否则你会发现我终将停止对你发问，而向它处寻求答案。

16.别告诉我说，我的害怕很傻、很可笑。如果你试着去了解，便会发现它对我是多么的真实

17.别暗示或让我感觉到你是完美、无懈可击的。当我发现你并非如此的时候，对我将是多么大的打击。

18.别认为向我道歉是没有尊严的事。一个诚实的道歉，会让我对你更接近，对你感觉更温暖。

19.在我飞速的成长时请和我保持一致的步伐，或许这对你来说有点困难，但是我们一起试一试好吗？

20.我喜欢尝试，请你也接纳我的这一爱好。

21.有了你的爱我才能茁壮成长，我需要他们，但是我不会挂在嘴边，好吗？