[思维养成] 你认为需要培养孩子哪些好的品德和个性

那天和PYY聊天，聊到她课上的一个孩子特别的优秀，于是便谈到了孩子的品德个性的培养问题。现在的孩子，智力水平都差不多，在未来的很多时候，看的是孩子的品德个性等非智力因素。那么，培养孩子一个好的价值观，好的品德和个性，对孩子未来的工作学习生活都是至关重要的。

而品德个性培养，仅仅靠读一些书，听几段名人故事是不够的。既然是个性，就是生长在孩子骨子里的东西，需要让孩子形成习惯。在一个小学的网站上，看到这所小学每个月都有一个个性培养主题。围绕这个主题，学校设计很多活动，让学生们参与进来。让学生在活动中不断的学习，内化为自身的东西。

September - Manners                               February - Honesty
October -    Self-Discipline                         March -       Responsibility
November - Friendship                            April -          Perseverance
December - Compassion                         May -          Cooperation
January -       Respect                               June -          Acceptance

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艺博妈妈

2012-2-9 11:37:18 使用道具

传说中的sofa?

艺博妈妈于2012-2-9 11:38补充以下内容：
记下了，慢慢实行。谢谢High5!

lelexinshijie

2012-2-9 11:38:13 使用道具

明确细致，这个学校有思路，对我们家长来说亦是一种启发。多谢分享！

high5

楼主 2012-2-9 11:41:30 使用道具

对于中学生，需要培养哪些好的品德和个性呢，在
http://charactercounts.org/sixpillars.html
上，总结出6条品德规范。

Trustworthiness 诚信
Be honest • Don’t deceive, cheat, or steal • Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do • Have the courage to do the right thing • Build a good reputation • Be loyal — stand by your family, friends, and country
诚信是一个人立足于社会的基石。

Respect 尊重
Treat others with respect; follow the Golden Rule • Be tolerant and accepting of differences • Use good manners, not bad language • Be considerate of the feelings of others • Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone • Deal peacefully with anger, insults, and disagreements
黄金规则中提到，如果你想别人如何对待你，你就先如何对待别人。尊重别人，别人也会同样尊重你。

Responsibility 责任
Do what you are supposed to do • Plan ahead • Persevere: keep on trying! • Always do your best • Use self-control • Be self-disciplined • Think before you act — consider the consequences • Be accountable for your words, actions, and attitudes       • Set a good example for others
做最好的自己

Fairness公平
Play by the rules • Take turns and share • Be open-minded; listen to others • Don’t take advantage of others • Don’t blame others carelessly • Treat all people fairly
能公平的对待所有人

Caring关爱
Be kind • Be compassionate and show you care • Express gratitude • Forgive others • Help people in need

Citizenship 公民意识（社会主人意识）
Do your share to make your school and community better • Cooperate • Get involved in community affairs • Stay informed; vote • Be a good neighbor • Obey laws and rules • Respect authority • Protect the environment  • Volunteer
记得台湾有一位中学校长曾今说过，天下兴亡，我的责任，而不是匹夫有责。这是你的学校，这是你的社区，这是你的图书馆，这是你的邻居。。。这是你的国家。当有这种意识的时候，将你周围的环境，你的学校，社区。。。。国家变得更好，就是“我的责任”。

high5

楼主 2012-2-9 11:59:32 使用道具

如何培养，从而使孩子拥有这些品德呢。这个网站提供了一套方法，

第一步：教学 Teach
Tell children that their character counts — that their success and happiness will depend on who they are inside, not what they have or how they look. Tell them that people of character know the difference between right and wrong because they guide their thoughts and actions by six basic rules of living (the Six Pillars of Character): trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring, and good citizenship. Explain the meaning of these words. Use examples from your own life, history, and the news.

第二步：执行
Instill the Six Pillars of Character by rewarding good behavior (usually, praise is enough) and by discouraging all instances of bad behavior by imposing (or, in some cases, allowing others to impose) fair, consistent consequences that prove you are serious about character. Demonstrate courage and firmness of will by enforcing the core values when it is difficult or costly to do so.
鼓励表扬好的行为。

第三步：倡导
Continuously encourage children to live up to the Six Pillars of Character in all their thoughts and actions. Be an advocate for character. Don’t be neutral about the importance of character nor casual about improper conduct. Be clear and uncompromising that you want and expect your children to be trustworthy, respectful, responsible, fair, caring, and good citizens.
提供一个以好行为好品德为荣的环境。

第四步：榜样
Be careful and self-conscious about setting a good example in everything you say and do. Hold yourself to the highest standards of character by honoring the Six Pillars of Character at all times. You may be a good model now, but remember, you don’t have to be sick to get better. Everything you do, and don’t do, sends a message about your values. Be sure your messages reinforce your lessons about doing the right thing even when it is hard to do so. When you slip (and most of us do), act the way you want your children to behave when they act improperly — be accountable, apologize sincerely, and resolve to do better.

其实这些方法和我们当初学习雷锋好榜样一模一样哈。